Love is More Than a Feeling: A Valentine’s Day Reflection

            It seems to me that there are a lot of people who believe that St. Valentine’s Day is about feelings, and if you’re one of them, so be it. Please know that this isn’t a criticism – simply my opinion. Take it or leave it; the choice is yours.

            I happen to believe that Valentine’s Day is about love. And while love is certainly a feeling, or emotion, I think it is more than that – well, when it comes to true lasting love anyway.  Feelings are fleeting, believe me. (As a hormonal middle-aged woman, I can certainly attest to this now more than ever!) Romantic love between two committed adults, however, shouldn’t be all that different than the love between family members in the following sense; that is, while we don’t always agree with or possibly even “like” our parents or siblings or offspring, we should (God willing) always LOVE them…always forgive them…always wish to strengthen or renew that bond, if ever it should become compromised. Most people in healthy, loving, familial relationships will seek to maintain and/or restore that bond of love, no matter what it takes. So, why is it that so many of us don’t seem to care that deeply for our significant others – people to whom we may have even pledged an oath? Why do we let the bond deteriorate? What is it that we’re so prideful about that we can’t seek professional help, if necessary? (After all, it’s not like nearly 50% of Americans aren’t feeling the same way. So, who really has the right to judge us?!)  

            My point is this: stop treating love as a fleeting emotion and start taking the ones you love, particularly your significant other, seriously. Relationships are work; they’re not for the faint of heart. They don’t always work out. But I believe you should certainly give it your BEST shot.

            So, tonight I ask you to reflect on your relationships. Ask yourself what you’ve done lately to show your loved ones how special they are to you. Commit to doing your best now and in the future. Go the extra mile to repair what’s broken, if necessary.

            Love is more than a feeling; it is a choice. A choice you must make every day. A decision that can not only change your life but the lives of everyone around you.

            So, ask yourself this: Am I loving the ones I hold dear the best way I know how, or do I need to make some improvements? (Your relationships will be stronger for it, and you and your loved ones will be happier.) 😉